We all know someone who is in the same boat: Their religion succeeded in scaring (or guilting) the holy shit right out of ’em, or into ’em or whatever, so they got married young. Now they are stressed with a family to feed, (some unplanned children) trying to make ends meet, many bills to pay and they are stuck in a rut, a cycle of poverty. Then there is the cycle of damaged relations, disrespect, a pattern of degrading interactions, which further exacerbates the stress, increasing the likelihood of mental illness, addiction, domestic and substance abuse, rapid depletion of earth’s resources and ironically, severed relationships and divorce.
At that point we ask ourselves: how effective are the current canned answers and mode of things really?
Yes, it is an unpleasant topic that nobody really wants to face; but face it we must. These issues must be dealt with, reconsidered, and worked out with education, and broader models and methods yet that are more specific and still allow freedom to choose. Everything is a choice; or at least it should be.
Change is needed. It is time to try something different, to look at, speak about, and think of things differently. Learn to avoid tunnel vision. Everything is a matter of perspective and diversity is key. Share earth’s abundance and joy, redistribute the power and close the inequality gap.
I discuss these problems and some solutions of avoiding common pitfalls, wisdom shared in my new memoir. Nobody should have to go through all that. The Irony of the Well